Originally posted on Everyone Has A Story...:
Every relationship is as unique as the people in it, who each bring, amongst other things, a collection of experiences, wisdom, and personality to it. No matter what, only the two people in an intimate liaison can know fully what it looks and feels like. Like a child’s DNA, something unique to only two people in the world springs up into existence. If it self-destructs, the experience can leave one or both parties struggling with a grief that cannot be easily understood by anyone but the other participant who is now either causing the pain in the first place, or reeling from the shock of the destruction a breaking bond causes. I learned firsthand that the stronger the bond, the more miserable the breaking of it would be. A frustrating and traumatic journey began for me, and I grappled desperately to understand what had just happened to my life.
I knew logically that no one else would have the exact right advice when I first set out to understand what exactly had just happened in my own relationship. I just needed a starting point. I’d had what looked like a fairy tale marriage for over 20 years; suddenly, in a twinkling of an eye, something changed. I needed to know why. My husband suffered a very, very intense midlife crisis, and in a span of only a month or so, everything was different. A warped version of my beloved husband revealed itself, and my best friend became my sworn enemy. My rock-and-roll life instantly became a battleground, littered with the heartache that country songs are made of.
Grief-stricken and panicked, this wife set out on a quest to understand. WHY?